Scene-1
It was a saturday after noon when i got the message and rushed from office.It was some 25 years back .
I had the first look.At this time i could not exactly recall the feelings which i had then,But i remembered heaving a sigh of relief.I was not knowing then that this relief is going to revisit me often during my life journey.
Scene -2
it was the vijayadasami day, 5 years later.Both me and my wife have been preparing ourselves as to how to prepare our selves for the event and how to handle should there be cries/tears.Then came the surprise.He just went in, with out even batting an eye lid or even turning back to wave at us.Again a sigh of relief...
Scene -3
It was an year later at school day celebrations,Fancy dress competition.A cute smart child takes the audience by storm, by walking onto dais, with calm eyes in saffron cloth and declares in a serene and firm voice 'SARVO JANA SUGINO BHAVANTHU".It was probably an indication of events that are to follow wherein the role of wiping the tears of others by being emphatetic to cause of others , is going to be witnessed.This time it is a sigh of pride..
Scene-4.
15 YEARS LATER.Airport at Hongkong.It was a wait since morning.The air craft arrived about an hour ago and still no trace .Anxieties keep building up.No way to enquire and find out.Then when the unnecessary fears and anxities almost reach the point of blowing up, the big screen out side the arrival lounch indicates arrival, and then follows another sigh of relief.Heavens open to rejoice and down pours last almost thru the journey from airport to City.
Scene -5
It was a holiday in chennai , and a septemeber evening.Through a chat over the computer (which used to be on and often),comes a message wallowing in self grief, but clearly indicating the firm decison rising out of pain of doing some thing which is not to the liking.The pain, when shared gets released and then follows relief..
Scene -6
It was 3 years later.A message awaits at the office that there will be an event to reward the outstanding graduates. Office routine prevents any luxury or even a freedom to attend such important event.It was excatly a week later the photograph depicting the moment of triumph comes in hand and now it is a sigh of great honour,pride and pleasure, all at the same time.
Scene -7
It was 2008.March.Hyderabad.Over a cup of coffee, in the back ground of a drizzling sky , the news is broken.War of hearts.Initial reaction was surprise and then a sigh of great relief-for it signifies the adult hood, acceptance of good and bad mutually.
Scene -8
2008 again.A saturday.Heavy heart and agonising moments.October, for a change is causing hurt.Second seperation in a span of 3 days . More than the physical seperation, the fall out of the relationship and the hurt that it inflicated.This time it was not a sigh of relief but a sigh of anxiety and anguish.
Scene-9
2009-July-Hyderabad.Life has come through an whole circle.The results announced indicate the topper, proving to the self and the world outside the tenacity within and the desire to fight and conquer than to lament and perish.This time it is a sigh of great joy, for it is the confidence which has been restored at levels beeter than at any time in the past.
Scene-10
2010-MARCH
News from Hongkong .Exactly reunion after a decade with another great city, in the offing.It is now received with such a balance of mind wherein there is no great celebration.Now the life has taught what the goal is and how to go about it.There is only a sence of purpose, sence of acievement and a sence of gratitude.
NOW COMES THE GREATEST OF RELIEF.AN ADULT WHO KNOWS HOW TO CARE FOR HIMSELF AND IN THE PROCESS TO CARE FOR OTHERS HAVE ARRIVED.
"MAGAN THANTHIKKATRUM UDAVI,IVAN THANTHAI
ENNOTRAN KOL ENUM SOL"
thanks to Thiruvalluvar....
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Monday, September 6, 2010
A TRIBUTE TO TEACHERS
I do not know at this juncture, whom i should recall from my memories to honour them on this day devoted to Gurus,and i indeed feel guilty that i have not done it all along in the span of last 58years.My son is a guru, to me at this moment and the first heart felt thanks to him , for having reminded me about my omission, by his post, which is a classic tribute to his teachers.
And coming to the word "Guru", is it confined to only teachers(School, college etc0 or does it extend beyond that.To me before broaching on this issue let me place my gratitude to my teachers who made me what i am to day...
It goes back to Sita teacher(SRI DEVI ELEMENTARY SCHOOL), who took care of me during my first years of schooling, and in the same breath i must acknowledge my other teacher(my own sister Jayam)who with out teaching any thing, lives day in and day out as a role model to be pursued .
Then the memory lane takes me to the next important teacher of my life, who taught me the values of life, a strong belief system in God,self confidence by identifying, accepting and making me a leader to lead various debates, classes etc , who taught me mathematics and English and made me to secure state rank and a school first rank in my school.MANY OF THE VALUES IN LIFE WHICH I HOLD EVEN ON DATE , I OWE it to Sri Vijayaraghavachariar(RAMA KRISHNA MISSION HIGH SCHOOL-North branch).
My college days brought me back the passion for English language as well as Tamil langauge, and since then they were my two eyes.The ease and expertise with which i was able to handle the behavoural science classes ,in both languages , simultaneously later in my life as a faculty , the taste that i have developed to authors like Jayakanthan, Thi Janagiraman, NA Parathasarathy , JK, etc all flowed from my two teachers at College Sri Jagannatha Chariar(Tamil) and sri K.Srinivasan
English).I still recall with agony and pleasure at the same time, when my professor of English did the last part of Antony and cleopatra, the death scene of cleopatra.The entire class was moved and in tears at that moment when he acted like cleopatra,and none of us could take lunch on that day. All of us skipped our lunch as no one was in a mood to go to lunch.And that was the day i recognised the greatness of true love.
Then when i moved in to the professional pursuit, Sri Sadagopan, a chartered accountant by profession, taught me the values about the profession and th need to maintain the highest clarity and integrity, backed with practical wisdom in issues of importance.
LATER WHEN I HAVE TAKEN BANKING AS MY CAREER THE ONE PERSON WHOM I SHOULD MAKE A reference to for all the guidance that he gave to me is Sri Ganesan, who made my career graph to ascend the way in which it is presently progressing.
That much about the teachers, i.e the manner in which the term is loosely understood by masses-then there are many more teachers, like a friend in need, a father's untold love, a mother's spoken love, a sweet heart's timely advise, the actions and words of near and dear, a son and a daughter, and even the opposition of an enemy ,events in society which revolve around you all these are great masters of life. And as my son succinctly put it the life itself is the greatest leveller and to that extent a great teacher too.
I dip my banner in acknowlegement to all those who have contributed directly and indirectly in so many ways for shaping my life.
September 6, 2010 1:20 PM
And coming to the word "Guru", is it confined to only teachers(School, college etc0 or does it extend beyond that.To me before broaching on this issue let me place my gratitude to my teachers who made me what i am to day...
It goes back to Sita teacher(SRI DEVI ELEMENTARY SCHOOL), who took care of me during my first years of schooling, and in the same breath i must acknowledge my other teacher(my own sister Jayam)who with out teaching any thing, lives day in and day out as a role model to be pursued .
Then the memory lane takes me to the next important teacher of my life, who taught me the values of life, a strong belief system in God,self confidence by identifying, accepting and making me a leader to lead various debates, classes etc , who taught me mathematics and English and made me to secure state rank and a school first rank in my school.MANY OF THE VALUES IN LIFE WHICH I HOLD EVEN ON DATE , I OWE it to Sri Vijayaraghavachariar(RAMA KRISHNA MISSION HIGH SCHOOL-North branch).
My college days brought me back the passion for English language as well as Tamil langauge, and since then they were my two eyes.The ease and expertise with which i was able to handle the behavoural science classes ,in both languages , simultaneously later in my life as a faculty , the taste that i have developed to authors like Jayakanthan, Thi Janagiraman, NA Parathasarathy , JK, etc all flowed from my two teachers at College Sri Jagannatha Chariar(Tamil) and sri K.Srinivasan
English).I still recall with agony and pleasure at the same time, when my professor of English did the last part of Antony and cleopatra, the death scene of cleopatra.The entire class was moved and in tears at that moment when he acted like cleopatra,and none of us could take lunch on that day. All of us skipped our lunch as no one was in a mood to go to lunch.And that was the day i recognised the greatness of true love.
Then when i moved in to the professional pursuit, Sri Sadagopan, a chartered accountant by profession, taught me the values about the profession and th need to maintain the highest clarity and integrity, backed with practical wisdom in issues of importance.
LATER WHEN I HAVE TAKEN BANKING AS MY CAREER THE ONE PERSON WHOM I SHOULD MAKE A reference to for all the guidance that he gave to me is Sri Ganesan, who made my career graph to ascend the way in which it is presently progressing.
That much about the teachers, i.e the manner in which the term is loosely understood by masses-then there are many more teachers, like a friend in need, a father's untold love, a mother's spoken love, a sweet heart's timely advise, the actions and words of near and dear, a son and a daughter, and even the opposition of an enemy ,events in society which revolve around you all these are great masters of life. And as my son succinctly put it the life itself is the greatest leveller and to that extent a great teacher too.
I dip my banner in acknowlegement to all those who have contributed directly and indirectly in so many ways for shaping my life.
September 6, 2010 1:20 PM
Friday, September 3, 2010
Surya -The sun
Surian in Tamil langauge means the Sun God,and i would like to clarify at the outset that this post has no connection what so ever with the Sun-god.It is more with reference to the human beings, with Surya as their names whom i had occasion to move with/learn about..
And believe it or not, true to the names the incumbents, whichever gender they belong to, exhibited the warmth, brightness and the energy like the sun.
I recall that in my memory path , the first reference to Surya is to one of the siblings of my close realtive.I used to visit their home when i was alone In New Delhi(due to job compulsions) and used to frequent their home.,during week ends.
POssibly a child at the age of 8 or 9 perhaps, she has always been roaming around with a smile which is natural which normally comes out when a person is not under a compulsion to smile.With both her parents employed, i have seen her taking care of her younger sibling (2 yerars younger) till her parents return.The hospitality shown to visitors is always a treat to watch.To top it all she has been continuously arank holder in her academics that she pursued.The seed shows the quality of the tree. And yes , now in her adult hood she is employed with one of the leading financial institutions in MUMBAI and is perhaps taking home a salary , at double the levels of mine(which i have started drwaing only an year back!!.The point is not about the money /salary. The point is that even as of now, she is the same old kid Surya , in her approach, attitude marked with pleasantness, and the brilliance.
The next Surya, is the one belonging to Bolly wood.Perhaps i have seen almost all his movies though i am not a regular movie goer.What has impressed me about him, other than his acting talents is his sincerity of love when he wedded Jothiga, his coactress, possibly surmounting the family obstacles and patiently waiting to win any one and everyone's support for the same in due course of time.And his contribution to the society.Quite a few actors have been conscious of the society and have been contributing their mite(my first idol in this regard is KAMAL) , but the way in which Surya has started his association with noble causes (even before he became a celebrity so to say) including his participation in 'SAVE THE TIGER COMPAIGN" show his down to earth personality and the deep concerns that he has to wards uplifting society and his love for animals too.(i am specifically drawing reference to his love for animals as those who are capable of love , love every thing...human or other wise..and that is the major grandeur in life..to be in a position to love, whether it is reciprocated or not, for true love brings the harmony and peace within).
My last reference to Surya, is to a kid, hardly 2 years old.I remember the occasion when i went for the Seemantham celebration,to mUmbai, when the kid was in the womb of its mother waiting to see the world.Then the dawn arrived and so also Surya. The next time it was when i went to spend some time with my son who was working in Mumbai, who had the lively company of little Surya to give him some smile and comfort whenever he returns from a busy day at office, lonely and tired. And when i visited tahn i was attracted by 2 main features, one the dark,beautiful and energetic eyes and the second, its smile, readily available as and when you call the kid by its name.The third occasion was in Oppiliappan temple, the event being the first birthday of the kid, when its dark , dangling hair all over the head, had been cleanly shaven., a dazzling "mottai" in tamil, and i love "mottais" and i get happiness by a touch of such young children .And when ever i touched, Surya acknowledged with a smile.Then in the recent fortnight when i had been to Bhopal to visit my siter.Surya has also arrived with his patients. And two days with Surya, the games that we played(a fifty eight year old with a two year old), the echoing sounds which Surya emiited, the tingling of laughter all tru the day, the teasing moments we encountered when Surya gave a nice kiss to every one , except my wife who was begging for it almost from the time she arrived(Surya compensated later by hugging her and kissing her in exchnge for some "kalkandu")Alas , she has to bribe the child for a kiss, where as we all got it as a matter of right..Enough stuff for me to keep teasing my wife on that count ...
Children are really a reflection of the God.Their presence and their nearness is adequate to give you a smile and comfort.Possibly it is the quality exhibited from the child hood which mark the later part of life as an adult. If that is true,Surya, the kid, is going to tempt women around him in days to come with his teasing smiles, mischivous cries, and hide and seek games.And yes, the eyes are going to be his weapons to destroy the opposition, in split seconds..Glory to Surya..
And believe it or not, true to the names the incumbents, whichever gender they belong to, exhibited the warmth, brightness and the energy like the sun.
I recall that in my memory path , the first reference to Surya is to one of the siblings of my close realtive.I used to visit their home when i was alone In New Delhi(due to job compulsions) and used to frequent their home.,during week ends.
POssibly a child at the age of 8 or 9 perhaps, she has always been roaming around with a smile which is natural which normally comes out when a person is not under a compulsion to smile.With both her parents employed, i have seen her taking care of her younger sibling (2 yerars younger) till her parents return.The hospitality shown to visitors is always a treat to watch.To top it all she has been continuously arank holder in her academics that she pursued.The seed shows the quality of the tree. And yes , now in her adult hood she is employed with one of the leading financial institutions in MUMBAI and is perhaps taking home a salary , at double the levels of mine(which i have started drwaing only an year back!!.The point is not about the money /salary. The point is that even as of now, she is the same old kid Surya , in her approach, attitude marked with pleasantness, and the brilliance.
The next Surya, is the one belonging to Bolly wood.Perhaps i have seen almost all his movies though i am not a regular movie goer.What has impressed me about him, other than his acting talents is his sincerity of love when he wedded Jothiga, his coactress, possibly surmounting the family obstacles and patiently waiting to win any one and everyone's support for the same in due course of time.And his contribution to the society.Quite a few actors have been conscious of the society and have been contributing their mite(my first idol in this regard is KAMAL) , but the way in which Surya has started his association with noble causes (even before he became a celebrity so to say) including his participation in 'SAVE THE TIGER COMPAIGN" show his down to earth personality and the deep concerns that he has to wards uplifting society and his love for animals too.(i am specifically drawing reference to his love for animals as those who are capable of love , love every thing...human or other wise..and that is the major grandeur in life..to be in a position to love, whether it is reciprocated or not, for true love brings the harmony and peace within).
My last reference to Surya, is to a kid, hardly 2 years old.I remember the occasion when i went for the Seemantham celebration,to mUmbai, when the kid was in the womb of its mother waiting to see the world.Then the dawn arrived and so also Surya. The next time it was when i went to spend some time with my son who was working in Mumbai, who had the lively company of little Surya to give him some smile and comfort whenever he returns from a busy day at office, lonely and tired. And when i visited tahn i was attracted by 2 main features, one the dark,beautiful and energetic eyes and the second, its smile, readily available as and when you call the kid by its name.The third occasion was in Oppiliappan temple, the event being the first birthday of the kid, when its dark , dangling hair all over the head, had been cleanly shaven., a dazzling "mottai" in tamil, and i love "mottais" and i get happiness by a touch of such young children .And when ever i touched, Surya acknowledged with a smile.Then in the recent fortnight when i had been to Bhopal to visit my siter.Surya has also arrived with his patients. And two days with Surya, the games that we played(a fifty eight year old with a two year old), the echoing sounds which Surya emiited, the tingling of laughter all tru the day, the teasing moments we encountered when Surya gave a nice kiss to every one , except my wife who was begging for it almost from the time she arrived(Surya compensated later by hugging her and kissing her in exchnge for some "kalkandu")Alas , she has to bribe the child for a kiss, where as we all got it as a matter of right..Enough stuff for me to keep teasing my wife on that count ...
Children are really a reflection of the God.Their presence and their nearness is adequate to give you a smile and comfort.Possibly it is the quality exhibited from the child hood which mark the later part of life as an adult. If that is true,Surya, the kid, is going to tempt women around him in days to come with his teasing smiles, mischivous cries, and hide and seek games.And yes, the eyes are going to be his weapons to destroy the opposition, in split seconds..Glory to Surya..
Friday, August 20, 2010
TO THE STONGER SEX(OFCOURSE TO WEAKER SEX TOO)
LOVE, SOME SAY IS BLIND.Some claim it to be divine.Some others discount it as chemistry of harmones.This issue is as complex as complexity of people itself.
But one thing is common amongst all those comments.These comments are from those who have tasted love(failure or success)and those who have heard others' experience of love and chose to pass comments on the same.
As a person who had been through love,and in love,even on date (as there are diifrent levels on which love can operate and not necessarily between a womam and man alone as is normally constured by majority ) and as a person who had seen others going thru the pros and cons of love, i thoght i should blog on this subject, especially in the context of incereasing cases of broken hearts leading to abnormal behaviours , on the part of those who feel that they have been rejected by their mates.
Though i would not like to make it gender specific, for fear of being dubbed as gender biased, still i would like to make the statement that in the present day world, it is the so called stronger sex , who are found to be prone to the risks arising out of pain of a broken love than the weaker sex.MAY BE I AM WRONG AND MAY BE I HAVE BEEN CLOSER ONLY TO CAES INVOLVING THE STRONGER SEX.That is however besides the point.The basic point is why do we react the way in which we react.Do we have any other rational behavoiur which we can exhibit?/
As i have been often repeating in these columns , love can make or break.This statement need not be construed as a justification by those who chose to take extreme measures, on the pretext of overcoming the pain.I would like to recall the movie"Varanam ayiram" which came very close to exhibiting the pains of a broken heart(not broken love!) in the recent past.The plus point of the movie was that it went beyond the pains of the person in broken relationship or lost relationship.It focussed on those who are near and dear to the person who were experiencing pains themselves too , may not be of the same degree but more or less on equal degrees on seeing the plight of the peson whom they love and whom they look for ward to as their future hope.
I have analysed the reasons for the behaviour exhibited by various persons in the last 25 years of my life(i.e since i attained adult hood or rather a balanced mind)and more particularly in the last 3-4 year , for it is in the recent past that this number appear to swell.I can tabulate them as under:
1.Total trust and faith in the other gender (i.e Control of mind by the heart with the result there is lack of rationale approach).Of course, i do agree that love is blind, but that is applicable to physical traits (beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder) and need not extend to loss of rationale/logic witnessed in very many cases.
2.Failure to accept that other persons(in one to one relation) may have their own limitations and reasons for a decision (including the decision to choose or reject)and failure to appreciate that the other person has as much freedom as one's own self to do that.(Here again i am not contemplating or justifying that the other person can at his/her free will and choice can enter or leave a realtionship at the drop of a hat).
3.The belief that the world is lost , simply because one person had chosen to end a relationship.
4.The false notion that the person is rejected whereas what is rejected is the kind of relationship that is all along contemplated. It is possible that a relationship may still continue as good friends or well wishers to each other.
5.The sudden distancing of one self from the rest of friends and the family(when one is in serious affair) with the result the near and dear are first perplexed by the distancing factor and later at the erratic behaviour when the affair turns sour.VERYOFTEN THAN NOT THIS DISTANCING FACTOR ITSELF ACTS AN IMPEDIMENT IN RUSHING TO THE NEEDY INDIVIDUAL TO GIVE THE REQUIRED SOLACE AND COMFORT.
6.Sudden lack of confidence in ones own image, abilities, potential and what not arising as result of the break in realtionship.If only we could remember that life is a journey and all those who come across are passengers in the journey, it would be easy to appreciate that not only the journey shall come to an end and that the passengers need not necessarily travel till the destination/
The journey is more important than the goal in itself as my son used to say.LET US REMEMBER THAT THE WORLD HAS MORE THINGS TO OFFER.WHEN ONE WINDOW IS CLOSED ANOTHER DOOR IS opened and we fail to realise the same in our agony of pains. AN OPPORTUNITY IS LOST PERMANANTLY.
THE LIFE IS TOO PRECIOUS TO SPEND WORRYING ON SUCH ISSUES. YOU /EVERY ONE OF US ARE BORN IN THIS WORLD TO ACHIEVE SOME THING AND ONCE THIS RECOGNITION COMES IN ,WAY OF LIVING AND WAY OF SEEING THE LIFE itself will undergo a change.
Life is short, journey is long, opportunities are plenty, responsibiliies are more: the making or marring of a relationship is not in other's hands but in one's own hands.Cheer up and face the world, the world will reciprocate in equal if not in more measure. YOU DID NOT HAVE A CHOICE ON TWO OF THE IMPORTANT EVENTS IN LIFE, BIRTH AND EATH AND WHY WORRY ON LOSS OF A CHOICE OF A RELATIONSHIP!!IT IS POSSIBLE THAT YOU ARE GIFTED WITH A BETTER RELATIONSHIP IN DAYS TO COME.......
vision
But one thing is common amongst all those comments.These comments are from those who have tasted love(failure or success)and those who have heard others' experience of love and chose to pass comments on the same.
As a person who had been through love,and in love,even on date (as there are diifrent levels on which love can operate and not necessarily between a womam and man alone as is normally constured by majority ) and as a person who had seen others going thru the pros and cons of love, i thoght i should blog on this subject, especially in the context of incereasing cases of broken hearts leading to abnormal behaviours , on the part of those who feel that they have been rejected by their mates.
Though i would not like to make it gender specific, for fear of being dubbed as gender biased, still i would like to make the statement that in the present day world, it is the so called stronger sex , who are found to be prone to the risks arising out of pain of a broken love than the weaker sex.MAY BE I AM WRONG AND MAY BE I HAVE BEEN CLOSER ONLY TO CAES INVOLVING THE STRONGER SEX.That is however besides the point.The basic point is why do we react the way in which we react.Do we have any other rational behavoiur which we can exhibit?/
As i have been often repeating in these columns , love can make or break.This statement need not be construed as a justification by those who chose to take extreme measures, on the pretext of overcoming the pain.I would like to recall the movie"Varanam ayiram" which came very close to exhibiting the pains of a broken heart(not broken love!) in the recent past.The plus point of the movie was that it went beyond the pains of the person in broken relationship or lost relationship.It focussed on those who are near and dear to the person who were experiencing pains themselves too , may not be of the same degree but more or less on equal degrees on seeing the plight of the peson whom they love and whom they look for ward to as their future hope.
I have analysed the reasons for the behaviour exhibited by various persons in the last 25 years of my life(i.e since i attained adult hood or rather a balanced mind)and more particularly in the last 3-4 year , for it is in the recent past that this number appear to swell.I can tabulate them as under:
1.Total trust and faith in the other gender (i.e Control of mind by the heart with the result there is lack of rationale approach).Of course, i do agree that love is blind, but that is applicable to physical traits (beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder) and need not extend to loss of rationale/logic witnessed in very many cases.
2.Failure to accept that other persons(in one to one relation) may have their own limitations and reasons for a decision (including the decision to choose or reject)and failure to appreciate that the other person has as much freedom as one's own self to do that.(Here again i am not contemplating or justifying that the other person can at his/her free will and choice can enter or leave a realtionship at the drop of a hat).
3.The belief that the world is lost , simply because one person had chosen to end a relationship.
4.The false notion that the person is rejected whereas what is rejected is the kind of relationship that is all along contemplated. It is possible that a relationship may still continue as good friends or well wishers to each other.
5.The sudden distancing of one self from the rest of friends and the family(when one is in serious affair) with the result the near and dear are first perplexed by the distancing factor and later at the erratic behaviour when the affair turns sour.VERYOFTEN THAN NOT THIS DISTANCING FACTOR ITSELF ACTS AN IMPEDIMENT IN RUSHING TO THE NEEDY INDIVIDUAL TO GIVE THE REQUIRED SOLACE AND COMFORT.
6.Sudden lack of confidence in ones own image, abilities, potential and what not arising as result of the break in realtionship.If only we could remember that life is a journey and all those who come across are passengers in the journey, it would be easy to appreciate that not only the journey shall come to an end and that the passengers need not necessarily travel till the destination/
The journey is more important than the goal in itself as my son used to say.LET US REMEMBER THAT THE WORLD HAS MORE THINGS TO OFFER.WHEN ONE WINDOW IS CLOSED ANOTHER DOOR IS opened and we fail to realise the same in our agony of pains. AN OPPORTUNITY IS LOST PERMANANTLY.
THE LIFE IS TOO PRECIOUS TO SPEND WORRYING ON SUCH ISSUES. YOU /EVERY ONE OF US ARE BORN IN THIS WORLD TO ACHIEVE SOME THING AND ONCE THIS RECOGNITION COMES IN ,WAY OF LIVING AND WAY OF SEEING THE LIFE itself will undergo a change.
Life is short, journey is long, opportunities are plenty, responsibiliies are more: the making or marring of a relationship is not in other's hands but in one's own hands.Cheer up and face the world, the world will reciprocate in equal if not in more measure. YOU DID NOT HAVE A CHOICE ON TWO OF THE IMPORTANT EVENTS IN LIFE, BIRTH AND EATH AND WHY WORRY ON LOSS OF A CHOICE OF A RELATIONSHIP!!IT IS POSSIBLE THAT YOU ARE GIFTED WITH A BETTER RELATIONSHIP IN DAYS TO COME.......
vision
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
A TRIP TO RAMESWARAM
I have earlier made a reference in one of my blog posts as to how certain events keep happening with such perfect periodicity, time and again.
This has again been witnessed by me. It was exactly about 20 years back when i had been to RAMESWARAM to do away with the sins (committed uptil then!!) so that i could muster strength to commit them once again.Now that 20 years is a long time when one should have accumulated enough sins to pay another visit and more than that some astrologers have suggested to me to go to that palce so that i can start discharging certain responsibilities, hiterto not attended to by me, with the blessings of the almighty. So the second trip after 20 years.
And it so happened (or it was so suggested) that the trip and the dip in the ocean shall take place on a day when Amavasya, falls on a Monday.Accordinly i made my plans.It so happened that it also coincided with Adi Amavasya.i.e three in one, somwar, amavasya and Adi month.This is stated to be a rare combination.And it seems that the entire world is aware of this except me, with the result, that i have been sucked into a crowd of human sea and the human sea dipped in to the Water sea right from early hours of Monday, the 9th (3.30 am) till late in the evening.
Hindu Religion is said to be the mother of all religions. Its strength remains inits diversity.It is in fact not a religion but a way of life initself. And all that is based on the trust and implicit faith the people have in it. And that is proved by the lacs and lacs of people who toook the dip on that holy day. I subsequently came to know that the number as per unofficial count is 5lacs plus.Think of a place like Rameswaram catering to the needs of 5las people round the clock.
And the expected happened. We had to go with out proper conveyance since morning till evening as all roads to seas has been blocked by the police,no vehicles allowed wiothin a radius of 2 kms.ADDED TO THAT EVERY THING WAS IN SHORT SUPPLY, THE WATER, TIFFIN FOOD ETC. Any way all that is forgotten when all of the pilgrims have onething in common, their absolute trust in Siva and RAMA.
last trip(i.e 20 years back) i was accompanied by my brother, sisiter in law, father and mother, my wife and kids.This trip it is me, my wife, daughter and sister alone.Intervening years have not only consumed memories but also the beloved ones Viz father, mother, sisiterinlaw and brother in that order.
I saluted to them on the daawn of the 9th , calling for their blessings, while having a dip in the sea.AND THE SATISFACTION IS IMMENSE.I HAVE REVISITED THEIR THOUGHTS and along with it revisited the warmth and love of them too.
This has again been witnessed by me. It was exactly about 20 years back when i had been to RAMESWARAM to do away with the sins (committed uptil then!!) so that i could muster strength to commit them once again.Now that 20 years is a long time when one should have accumulated enough sins to pay another visit and more than that some astrologers have suggested to me to go to that palce so that i can start discharging certain responsibilities, hiterto not attended to by me, with the blessings of the almighty. So the second trip after 20 years.
And it so happened (or it was so suggested) that the trip and the dip in the ocean shall take place on a day when Amavasya, falls on a Monday.Accordinly i made my plans.It so happened that it also coincided with Adi Amavasya.i.e three in one, somwar, amavasya and Adi month.This is stated to be a rare combination.And it seems that the entire world is aware of this except me, with the result, that i have been sucked into a crowd of human sea and the human sea dipped in to the Water sea right from early hours of Monday, the 9th (3.30 am) till late in the evening.
Hindu Religion is said to be the mother of all religions. Its strength remains inits diversity.It is in fact not a religion but a way of life initself. And all that is based on the trust and implicit faith the people have in it. And that is proved by the lacs and lacs of people who toook the dip on that holy day. I subsequently came to know that the number as per unofficial count is 5lacs plus.Think of a place like Rameswaram catering to the needs of 5las people round the clock.
And the expected happened. We had to go with out proper conveyance since morning till evening as all roads to seas has been blocked by the police,no vehicles allowed wiothin a radius of 2 kms.ADDED TO THAT EVERY THING WAS IN SHORT SUPPLY, THE WATER, TIFFIN FOOD ETC. Any way all that is forgotten when all of the pilgrims have onething in common, their absolute trust in Siva and RAMA.
last trip(i.e 20 years back) i was accompanied by my brother, sisiter in law, father and mother, my wife and kids.This trip it is me, my wife, daughter and sister alone.Intervening years have not only consumed memories but also the beloved ones Viz father, mother, sisiterinlaw and brother in that order.
I saluted to them on the daawn of the 9th , calling for their blessings, while having a dip in the sea.AND THE SATISFACTION IS IMMENSE.I HAVE REVISITED THEIR THOUGHTS and along with it revisited the warmth and love of them too.
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
mystery of universe
Quite often, i am astonished at the way in which the universe operates .The precision with which the sun and the moon do their duties , the manner in which monsoons keep happening,the change in seasons at the marked times and so on and so forth.Perhaps the recent 'GLOBAL WARMING" to some extent had an effect on the periodicity of these events, especially with reference to teh advent of the seasons.Still, the mystery of universe, or more so the discipline behind the same is always a puzzle.
To add to that, one more item caught my fancy.This was from a scientist, studying the OSMOS...meaning the multitude of universes.His findings are shocking and surprising at the same time.The observations are that there are very many black holes in the universe (which is already known to the man kind) and the latest revelation is that there could be planets couched in these black holes.Hold your breath!!His next surmise is that the earth itself could be in one of those black holes , hidden from the sight of the rest.Incidentally a black hole is described as one which is so black that it consumes all the light falling on it but do not llow any light to escape from it.Th emeaning is simple.See every thing, but do not be seen others.
If this is true, it would tantamount to saying that there could be vey many civilisations, very many living beings , different life styles, different scientific explosions,cultures of a different kind and so on.Human beings are struck with very many puzzles of day to day life, on the earth it self.Imagine for a moment, that by some strange event, one is pulled into anothe rbalck hole and another universe..Think of its consequences..Not to scare any one, but to drivehome the point that"katrathu kai man alavu,kallathathu ulagalvu".
Let us keep celebrating the moment of this day, in this erath in this universe to its fullest extent..
vision
To add to that, one more item caught my fancy.This was from a scientist, studying the OSMOS...meaning the multitude of universes.His findings are shocking and surprising at the same time.The observations are that there are very many black holes in the universe (which is already known to the man kind) and the latest revelation is that there could be planets couched in these black holes.Hold your breath!!His next surmise is that the earth itself could be in one of those black holes , hidden from the sight of the rest.Incidentally a black hole is described as one which is so black that it consumes all the light falling on it but do not llow any light to escape from it.Th emeaning is simple.See every thing, but do not be seen others.
If this is true, it would tantamount to saying that there could be vey many civilisations, very many living beings , different life styles, different scientific explosions,cultures of a different kind and so on.Human beings are struck with very many puzzles of day to day life, on the earth it self.Imagine for a moment, that by some strange event, one is pulled into anothe rbalck hole and another universe..Think of its consequences..Not to scare any one, but to drivehome the point that"katrathu kai man alavu,kallathathu ulagalvu".
Let us keep celebrating the moment of this day, in this erath in this universe to its fullest extent..
vision
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
better to spend ,rejoice than to save and loose
It is now almost 5 months from the date of death of my beloved elder brother.He suffered in silence till the end of his life, partly due to physical disabilities and partly due to mental tensions.In fact mental tensions used to haunt more than the physical constraints.Some one said that it is the health of the mind which leads to the health of the body.And that satement is absolutely true of him.
With all that still he had certain principles.One of them is to lead a life by himself,not withstanding the limitations caused by the physical disability.He has never stayed overnight in any house other than his own house in Chennai, from the time he came to lead a retired life in Chennai. Yes there was one exception, that was when he breathed his last, when his body was lying in peace at my house.The other principle that he followed was to have just a minimum money, for his needs.He would prefer to draw the requirements in one or more visits rather than drawing sufficient amount in one stretch.REASON is simple.Never over spend, beyond your means.And the best way to attain that is to have as little money as possible so that there is no temptation to go that extra long.
And now comes the reason for this post.With his principled life, he left behind some money in a savings account, a few insurance policies in his name etc.which he could have very well spent for his own little desires.Now , claim for the monies left by him is a long drawn process.
When some one is alive, we never think of the ultimate death, though we come across death every day in one way or other, in friend circle, in news media, in the relation circle and so on. Still we never think of its intensity and its after math.
Procedure for claim for the monies left , started with a visit to the near by Village panchayat office.They said that references and witnesses of a dozen people to be obtained on the forms given by them. This was done. Then they say that to process the papers the consent of thashildar to be obtained. This was done. then they give fresh forms and seek respectable persons sign them as further witnesses. This was done.Now they ask you to prove that you are the brother of the deceased as the death certificate do not contain a connotation to the effect that you tow were brothers.waht is the alternative?? BRING THE BIRTH CERTIFICATES TO ENSURE THAT FATHER OF BOTH IS ONE AND THE SAME.From Death to Birth!!
Enough!!
Better that we spend the hard earned money rathe rthan going in circles to prove that you are born to the same father..Cudos to our systems!!
vision
With all that still he had certain principles.One of them is to lead a life by himself,not withstanding the limitations caused by the physical disability.He has never stayed overnight in any house other than his own house in Chennai, from the time he came to lead a retired life in Chennai. Yes there was one exception, that was when he breathed his last, when his body was lying in peace at my house.The other principle that he followed was to have just a minimum money, for his needs.He would prefer to draw the requirements in one or more visits rather than drawing sufficient amount in one stretch.REASON is simple.Never over spend, beyond your means.And the best way to attain that is to have as little money as possible so that there is no temptation to go that extra long.
And now comes the reason for this post.With his principled life, he left behind some money in a savings account, a few insurance policies in his name etc.which he could have very well spent for his own little desires.Now , claim for the monies left by him is a long drawn process.
When some one is alive, we never think of the ultimate death, though we come across death every day in one way or other, in friend circle, in news media, in the relation circle and so on. Still we never think of its intensity and its after math.
Procedure for claim for the monies left , started with a visit to the near by Village panchayat office.They said that references and witnesses of a dozen people to be obtained on the forms given by them. This was done. Then they say that to process the papers the consent of thashildar to be obtained. This was done. then they give fresh forms and seek respectable persons sign them as further witnesses. This was done.Now they ask you to prove that you are the brother of the deceased as the death certificate do not contain a connotation to the effect that you tow were brothers.waht is the alternative?? BRING THE BIRTH CERTIFICATES TO ENSURE THAT FATHER OF BOTH IS ONE AND THE SAME.From Death to Birth!!
Enough!!
Better that we spend the hard earned money rathe rthan going in circles to prove that you are born to the same father..Cudos to our systems!!
vision
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