A day of culmination of dreams, meeting of hearts, discharging of a father's important responsibility, and a day of joy, celebrations and feast.Yes June 5th 2011 the day of wedding of my daughter symbolised all that and more.
It symbolised our love to our dear children, it portayed the affectionate sentiments of the siblings, it denoted the matured handling of important events by a loving (still child like in many aspects ) brother, it stood testimony to the understanding of both sides, it also conveyed the most important message that when people decide to sit and approach the issues, every obstacle can be removed and ultimate bliss and peace can be brought about.
The week from June first passed with the speed of a lightning.Receiving the guests, making in house arrangements for their stay, umpteen number of visits to Choultry to take care of all loose ends(despite which still there were loose ends is another story !!),preparing for the day of reception, taking care of logistics, ensuring the comfort of all visitors to the best possible extent, making arrangements for stay at night, taking precautions to guard valuables and to shift the gift items back home and so on and so forth.Every one has got some thing to do or say added to the glitter.Normally i am a person who enjoy such occasions to the hilt,but doing the role of a father is slightly different .Hence there were occasions when tempers were about to erupt which thanks to the presence of professor!!from Hongkong by myside and thanks to the Mr Cools from my office standing steadfast ner by were nipped in the bud itself.
And when the mind is reconciled and balanced every thing else goes smooth. Right from tolerable NADASWARAM, to some standard light music, to the team of surging visitors (which bore testimony to the warmth &friendship that me and my wife had cultivated all along),to the enjoyable and variety food with very good taste of each item (as appreciated by the guests -since by the time myself and my son returned to have the dinner on 4th night it was already nearing 12 midnight and very few items were left out and our hunger had already died down)to the photo sessions which were at the same time fun and frolic, every thing went on well with God's grace according to schedule.There were some minor aberrations, but fortunately of no major consequence.The weather GOD was kind and the weather was neither too warm nor too cool and made the comfort level stronger.
Fifth morning, the proceedings have commenced at 3 am itself. HARDLY any one who matters have slept the previous day. And when things were going in the right direction according to teh desire of all sleeplessness adds to the energy levels instead of being a drag on nerves. tIME BETWEEN 7.20 AM AND 7.30 AM , as one of my close friend remarked was real suspence.The mangalyam whhich was sent around for taking the blessings of elders was taking its own time to return back, the boy and girl who went to change their attire took their sweet time to change over, the purohits were racing against time at an express speed, chanting mantras, issuing directions, and performing many acts like a magician all at the same time and it was exactly at 7.27 am, the mangalyatharanam took place.By 7.30 pleasantries have been exchanged and thE BHATTACHARYAR from our KULA DEIVAM TEMPLE-KUDAVASAL SRINIVAR, was the first to bless the couple with Kovil malas and atchadai.then followed the rest.the moment was itched green in memory.the seed for the event was sowed exactly 18 months back when both my daughter and the mappillai respectively broke the news of their liking towards each other to the respective parents. Then it was a LONG WAITING PERIOD ON ACCOUNT OF VARIETY OF FACTORS AND THEIR PATIENCE HAD PAID DIVIDENDS AT LAST.
The proceedings then centred around, more of events with fun and laughter like nalangu,kasi yatra, pidi sutral, poriidal,arundathi parthal, ammi mithiththal , oonjal etc (not necessarily in that order).Then it was time to visit the local OPPILIAPPAN TEMPLE (as our initial desire was to have the marriage at o.koil, near kumbakonam)and when we returned,it was time to pack off and bid fare well to the couple to proceed to thiruvanna malai, place of mappillai's parents.It was at that moment i lost my balance to some extent and tears filkled my eyes when i bade fare well to them.My friends near by took cahrge of the situation and my co brother and brother in law drove me away for while to restore me nack to my normalcy.
God has been kind in many ways.Ensuring that the function went on smmothly, every body who travelled from different destinations came and went back safely, every elder's blessings were available to the couple and that the climate has not played any tantrums.(exactly after one day, there were copious rains with thunder and lightning lasting for almost 2 hours, almost at the same time when our reception was organised).Thru this column a great acknowledgement to ALMIGHTY AND ALL ELDERS/WELL WISHERS .YES MAARAIGES ARE MADE IN HEAVEN NO DOUBT, HEAVEN IS IN OUR HEARTS!
As parents we have fulfilled the wishes. AS GROWN UP ADULTS THEY SHOULD KNOW TO LEAD LIFE HAPPILY TO OUR SATISFACTION.And i will await for the next DDAY....
Incidentally 5th june will be remembered for two more things from my side.It is the day on which my cousin brother's son gotengaged to his fiancee at US, and it is the day of shastiapthapoorthy celebrations of another cosin;s son.THREE IN ONE!!MAY BE THIS DAY IS DESTINED TO CARVE OUT SPECIFIC DIRECTIONS TO THE PEOPLE NEAR AND EAR TO ME AND I WISH ALL THEIR LIVES TO BE PEACEFUL, HAPPY AND CONTENDED, WITH GOD'S GRACE.
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
ANY DAY CAN BE LAST DAY
TODAY IS ONE OF THE DAYS WHICH TERRIFIED ME, SHOCKED ME AND LEFT ME SPEECHLESS.
THE NEWS OF DEATH OF MY NEPHEW, HARDLY IN HIS FORTIES, STRUCK ME LIKE A BULLET.
HE HAD SUFFERED A MASSIVE HEART ATTACK AND LEFT THE EAERTH TO HIS HEAVENLY ABODE, EVEN WHILE SLEEPING.
VERY FEW ARE FORTUNATE TO HAVE A DEATH IN SLEEP AND HE WAS ONE.BUT IN THE PROCESS HE LEFT A WHOLE LOT , HIS WIFE, HIS SON HARDLY 5YEARS OLD AND HIS MOTHER , FATHER AND BROTHERS IN A TOTALLY SHATTERED PLATFORM .
HE WAS WITH US HARDLY 10 DAYS BACK,CRACKING JOKES, MAKING FUN, DISCUSSING THE FUTURE PLANS, SINGING OLD HINDI SONGS (IN HIS RICH VOICE WHICH ALWAYS TAKE YOU TO DAYS OF MOHD RAFI/KISHORE KUMAR)ESPECIALLY THHE ONES FROM THE EVER GREEN TABLOID “ARADHANA.”
THE MORE I COME TO THINK OF IT, THE MORE IT LOOKS LIKE A DREAM AND NOT A REALITY.AND MORE I THINK OF MY SISTER WHO HAD BEEN SUFFERING ON ONE COUNT OR THE OTHER FOR THE PAST 7 YEARS OR SO THIS COULD BE THE MOST RAVAGING HIT, WHICH SHE CERTAINLY DID NOT DESERVE.
TIME AND AGAIN WE GO INTO PHILOSOPHICAL MOODS AND UNDERSTAND THAT “ANY DAY CAN BE THE LAST DAY OF HUMAN LIFE”.STILL WHEN THE LAST DAY COMES, IT LEAVES US BAFFLED AND SHATTERED.
AS IF TO ASSUAGE MY HURT FEELINGS I CAME ACROSS AN ARTICLE.WHICH APTLY DESCRIBES HOW TO FACE THE LAST DAY(IF ONLY YOU RECOGNISE IT TO BE THE LAST DAY).SOME EXCERPTS FROM THE SAME :
QUOTE
‘DO WORRIES, TENSION, NASTINESS,OR NEGATIVITY MAKE ANY SENCE KNOWING VERY WELL THAT ONE OF THESE DAYS CAN BE THE LAST DAY OF OUR LIFE? MIGHT AS WELL FILL IT WITH CELEBRATIONS, MUSIC, DANCE, USEFULNESS TO OTHERS AND POSITIVITY.IF THE END IS INEVITABLE ATLEAST LET US MAKE IT BEAUTIFUL.LET US TREAT EACH DAY WITH A SMILE AND LET US BE SWEET,PATIENT, LOVING, CARING PURE, BLISSFUL AND ACCOUNTABLE.LET US LIVE TO MAKE THIS DAY AS OUR BEST DAY..AND THAT IS ALL LIFE IS ABOUT-A DAY AT A TIME.
LET US EXTEND THE SAME UNDERSTANDING TO OTHERS TOO., FOR ONE OF THESE DAYS WILL BE THEIR LAST DAY.LET US DEMONSRTATE ALL THE CARE, KINDNESS EMPATHY AND LOVE AND LET US DO IT WITH OUT ANY THOUGHT OF EXPECATION BY WAY OF RECIPROCATION.AFTER ALL WILL ANY BODY BE EGOISTIC, OR THINK OF REVENGE OR TRY TO GET EVEN IF ONLY THEY KNOW THAT THE OTHER WILL BE GONE FOR EVER BY MIDNIGHT??TRULY WE DO NOT HAVE ENOUGH TIME LEFT TO LOVE EACH OTHER.THEN WHERE IS THE TIME TO FIGHT AND HATE?
UNQUOTE
MY NEPHEW HAD BROUGHT SMILES WHEN EVER WE WERE TOGETHER .PROBABLY HE KNEW HOW TO LEAD HIS LIFE.BUT THE VERY THOUGHT OF HIM NOW FILLS ME WITH TEARS.LET HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE AND LET HIM GIVE HIS INDOMITABLE WILL,SWEET SMILES AND EVER INSPIRING CONVERSATION TO STAND BY THOSE WHO HAD LOST HIM FOR EVER.
I SIGN OFF WITH MY HEAD BOWED TO THE DEPARTED SOUL TO REST IN PEACE.
THE NEWS OF DEATH OF MY NEPHEW, HARDLY IN HIS FORTIES, STRUCK ME LIKE A BULLET.
HE HAD SUFFERED A MASSIVE HEART ATTACK AND LEFT THE EAERTH TO HIS HEAVENLY ABODE, EVEN WHILE SLEEPING.
VERY FEW ARE FORTUNATE TO HAVE A DEATH IN SLEEP AND HE WAS ONE.BUT IN THE PROCESS HE LEFT A WHOLE LOT , HIS WIFE, HIS SON HARDLY 5YEARS OLD AND HIS MOTHER , FATHER AND BROTHERS IN A TOTALLY SHATTERED PLATFORM .
HE WAS WITH US HARDLY 10 DAYS BACK,CRACKING JOKES, MAKING FUN, DISCUSSING THE FUTURE PLANS, SINGING OLD HINDI SONGS (IN HIS RICH VOICE WHICH ALWAYS TAKE YOU TO DAYS OF MOHD RAFI/KISHORE KUMAR)ESPECIALLY THHE ONES FROM THE EVER GREEN TABLOID “ARADHANA.”
THE MORE I COME TO THINK OF IT, THE MORE IT LOOKS LIKE A DREAM AND NOT A REALITY.AND MORE I THINK OF MY SISTER WHO HAD BEEN SUFFERING ON ONE COUNT OR THE OTHER FOR THE PAST 7 YEARS OR SO THIS COULD BE THE MOST RAVAGING HIT, WHICH SHE CERTAINLY DID NOT DESERVE.
TIME AND AGAIN WE GO INTO PHILOSOPHICAL MOODS AND UNDERSTAND THAT “ANY DAY CAN BE THE LAST DAY OF HUMAN LIFE”.STILL WHEN THE LAST DAY COMES, IT LEAVES US BAFFLED AND SHATTERED.
AS IF TO ASSUAGE MY HURT FEELINGS I CAME ACROSS AN ARTICLE.WHICH APTLY DESCRIBES HOW TO FACE THE LAST DAY(IF ONLY YOU RECOGNISE IT TO BE THE LAST DAY).SOME EXCERPTS FROM THE SAME :
QUOTE
‘DO WORRIES, TENSION, NASTINESS,OR NEGATIVITY MAKE ANY SENCE KNOWING VERY WELL THAT ONE OF THESE DAYS CAN BE THE LAST DAY OF OUR LIFE? MIGHT AS WELL FILL IT WITH CELEBRATIONS, MUSIC, DANCE, USEFULNESS TO OTHERS AND POSITIVITY.IF THE END IS INEVITABLE ATLEAST LET US MAKE IT BEAUTIFUL.LET US TREAT EACH DAY WITH A SMILE AND LET US BE SWEET,PATIENT, LOVING, CARING PURE, BLISSFUL AND ACCOUNTABLE.LET US LIVE TO MAKE THIS DAY AS OUR BEST DAY..AND THAT IS ALL LIFE IS ABOUT-A DAY AT A TIME.
LET US EXTEND THE SAME UNDERSTANDING TO OTHERS TOO., FOR ONE OF THESE DAYS WILL BE THEIR LAST DAY.LET US DEMONSRTATE ALL THE CARE, KINDNESS EMPATHY AND LOVE AND LET US DO IT WITH OUT ANY THOUGHT OF EXPECATION BY WAY OF RECIPROCATION.AFTER ALL WILL ANY BODY BE EGOISTIC, OR THINK OF REVENGE OR TRY TO GET EVEN IF ONLY THEY KNOW THAT THE OTHER WILL BE GONE FOR EVER BY MIDNIGHT??TRULY WE DO NOT HAVE ENOUGH TIME LEFT TO LOVE EACH OTHER.THEN WHERE IS THE TIME TO FIGHT AND HATE?
UNQUOTE
MY NEPHEW HAD BROUGHT SMILES WHEN EVER WE WERE TOGETHER .PROBABLY HE KNEW HOW TO LEAD HIS LIFE.BUT THE VERY THOUGHT OF HIM NOW FILLS ME WITH TEARS.LET HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE AND LET HIM GIVE HIS INDOMITABLE WILL,SWEET SMILES AND EVER INSPIRING CONVERSATION TO STAND BY THOSE WHO HAD LOST HIM FOR EVER.
I SIGN OFF WITH MY HEAD BOWED TO THE DEPARTED SOUL TO REST IN PEACE.
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