I have been watching the tussles and the heart breaks witnessed time and again amidst the genders. I am conscious in not using the word, lovers or couples , simply because of the fact that the diffrence in gender in itself is a sufficient cause to create misunderstandings ,in waht ever be the type of relationship.
This is because that a male is not going to recognise the pain of his female counterpart when she is thru the delivering phase of a baby , however much he sincerely attempts to know about it and offer solace, Similarly the female counter part will never ever come to know the agony and pains that the male counterpart has gone through when she is going thru all those lablour pains inside the hospital.
It would be wonderful if both involved sit to gether , clasp each other 's hands and spend a few moments to gether in silence instead of eloquently describing how each has felt during those moments .At such times silence is the golden key which opens the closed doors and apply it self to the wounds inflicate dand imagined!!
Some one said that with all our vocabulary at our command still we could not heal a hurt or pain thru mere words while a hug, or smile or any other physical gesture possibly could replace thosands of words to be spoken to convey one's true feelings.
This is why when some one dear and near is away, not withstanding the constant touch you may have with him/ her still you feel like being by the side of the person in physical form to offer support and comfort.
Going bach to the conflicts i desscribed in the initial para of the blog,i have also found that those who are in love either exhibit great courage and wisdom and at times they also exhibit utter stupidity and lack of sensitivity.I know that the persons perse are not responsible for this type of behaviour for they are under the prowess and magical spell of the fourletter word "love'.And that is the reason nothing else counts for them except their love and in the process tempers run high, words flow without reasoning and if the conterparty also reacts with out reason there follows a stalemate.This could be true of 90 out of 100 cases and if 10 of 100 do not undergo the same type of experience hats off to them.
It is this 10% that we are required to follow and emulate. I do not normally give prescriptions of any kind to any one except saying atht the solution to any conflict faced by a person lies within the person himself/herself.Still i am tempted to give a prescription to those who have loved and lost, those who are in love and those who have seen their love blossoming into a marriage with or with out the support of near and dear.
YeS, FIRST THING IS TO RECOGNISE THAT THE TWO IN ANY RELATIONSHIPS ARE EQUALS.
THE SECOND IS TO LIVE TODAY, TODAY AND NOT OT LIVE YESTERDAY TODAY.
THE THIRD MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO REMAIN SILENT AT LEAST FOR FEW MOMENTS WHEN CONFLICTS ARE BROODING .
IF ( and that is the biggest if) only the same is not only preached but practiced , it would be the real connotation of love, for true love simply understands and do not argue.
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
Thursday, February 3, 2011
KUNG HAI FAT CHOI
I WISH ALL THE READERS (I CAN ALSO FANTASIZE OF MILLIONS OF READERS TO MY BLOG:):)A LIVELY CHINESE NEW YEAR. KUNG HAI FAT CHOI...WHICH LITERALLY MEANS HAPPY NEW YEAR.
IT WAS EXCATLY 13 YEARS BACK IN 1998 I WITNESSED THE GRANDEUR AND GLORY OF THE CHINESE NEW YEAR FROM THE OPEN TERRACE OF THE FLAT AT GOLDKING MANSION,TAI HANG DRIVE WHERE I WAS DESTINED/BLESSED (WHICH EVER WAY U TAKE IT) TO STAY FOR ALMOST 5 YEARS.
And the colourful parade of crakers and teh rilliance of lights emitted by them still remain green in my memory. It was as if thosands of deepavalis being celebrated all at the same point of time. Imagine the population of Chennai coming around with kith and kin to marina and start firing craKERS ALL AT THE SAME TIME AT THE DOTTED HOUR.
I still remember the punctuality with which the grand event will start and finish. It used to be around 8 pm in my days . And note it, it will start exactly at 8 pm and it will conclude exactly in 30 minutes, i,e by 8.30 pm.the precision with which the timing is adhered to, the manner in which the clouds are monitored, the ease with which the traffic is controlled are all factors to be seen to be believed.
My initial reaction when i witnessed it in first year was that the credits belong to British who held seige over hongkong for decades and who left the island under a bipartite settlement only in July 1997.So i was in fact not very keen next year(1999) to attend to the grand show, for fear that the same may not be as orderly or as good as the one witnessed in 1998.I was proved wrong. The second one was more majestic than the first one.In fact the jubiliation of having won back Hongkong from hands of the British, possibly added more passion to the whole show.
I would like to know how the event is celebrated as of now and i have goaded my son (who has landed in HK DEC2010)not to miss this event. I have consciously used the word goading as my son is shy of crowds and i bet the crowds are going to be there in thousands,still the colourful sight of the entire population joining together to celebrate an event , ushering of new year, is great feat to watch and cherish.
The year is said to be the year of rabbit. Chinese years are always linked to animals and that is possibly because of their close love and appetite(conscious use)for them .nO OFFENCE MEANT ANY WAY. In a country whose population is incresing leaps and bounds, availability /sufficiency of food is a major concern and hence the people have been taught to make use of what is availble around them to take care of their hunger.
RABBITS ARE SAID TO BE FRIENDLY, TACTFUL AND CHARMING.The year is also predicted to be one of charm, friendliness and warmth.I recall my last Rabbit year in HK island, when i was present in a chinese restaurant,celebrating the new year with my chinese staff with a tamil song!!yes as atrue lover of tamil, i sang the song "Sen thamizh then mozhiyal,nilavena sirikkum malrkodiayal" with karoke , accompanied by a lovable dance by a few chinese girls and the night became an unforget ful one.I wish all my readers ,my chinese staff,my friends and above all my dearest son KUNG HAI FAT CHOI..:):)
IT WAS EXCATLY 13 YEARS BACK IN 1998 I WITNESSED THE GRANDEUR AND GLORY OF THE CHINESE NEW YEAR FROM THE OPEN TERRACE OF THE FLAT AT GOLDKING MANSION,TAI HANG DRIVE WHERE I WAS DESTINED/BLESSED (WHICH EVER WAY U TAKE IT) TO STAY FOR ALMOST 5 YEARS.
And the colourful parade of crakers and teh rilliance of lights emitted by them still remain green in my memory. It was as if thosands of deepavalis being celebrated all at the same point of time. Imagine the population of Chennai coming around with kith and kin to marina and start firing craKERS ALL AT THE SAME TIME AT THE DOTTED HOUR.
I still remember the punctuality with which the grand event will start and finish. It used to be around 8 pm in my days . And note it, it will start exactly at 8 pm and it will conclude exactly in 30 minutes, i,e by 8.30 pm.the precision with which the timing is adhered to, the manner in which the clouds are monitored, the ease with which the traffic is controlled are all factors to be seen to be believed.
My initial reaction when i witnessed it in first year was that the credits belong to British who held seige over hongkong for decades and who left the island under a bipartite settlement only in July 1997.So i was in fact not very keen next year(1999) to attend to the grand show, for fear that the same may not be as orderly or as good as the one witnessed in 1998.I was proved wrong. The second one was more majestic than the first one.In fact the jubiliation of having won back Hongkong from hands of the British, possibly added more passion to the whole show.
I would like to know how the event is celebrated as of now and i have goaded my son (who has landed in HK DEC2010)not to miss this event. I have consciously used the word goading as my son is shy of crowds and i bet the crowds are going to be there in thousands,still the colourful sight of the entire population joining together to celebrate an event , ushering of new year, is great feat to watch and cherish.
The year is said to be the year of rabbit. Chinese years are always linked to animals and that is possibly because of their close love and appetite(conscious use)for them .nO OFFENCE MEANT ANY WAY. In a country whose population is incresing leaps and bounds, availability /sufficiency of food is a major concern and hence the people have been taught to make use of what is availble around them to take care of their hunger.
RABBITS ARE SAID TO BE FRIENDLY, TACTFUL AND CHARMING.The year is also predicted to be one of charm, friendliness and warmth.I recall my last Rabbit year in HK island, when i was present in a chinese restaurant,celebrating the new year with my chinese staff with a tamil song!!yes as atrue lover of tamil, i sang the song "Sen thamizh then mozhiyal,nilavena sirikkum malrkodiayal" with karoke , accompanied by a lovable dance by a few chinese girls and the night became an unforget ful one.I wish all my readers ,my chinese staff,my friends and above all my dearest son KUNG HAI FAT CHOI..:):)
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
DAYS AND MOODS
Days are not alike and so also are the moods.Hardly 72 hrs back i was celebrating the conclusion of one more of my successful completion of the quarterly reviews .The results by any satndard were good and all were happy and that includes auditors too.The fact that except for some exchange of words here and there, with out which you don't get the satisfaction of having done your job(he he he), no other major scuffle also added to the peace of mind.
HARDLY 48 hrs back i was enjoying the company of the newly arrived twins when i went to see my cobrother's daughter at the hospital in T.NAGAR.The babies looked like plucked flowers, and when they smile in their sleep it is a refereshing experience to be a party to it.
And the last 36 hrs some what startled me a bit.All old ideas and arguments that i used to wage for and against love kept cropping up. ALL BECAUSE OF A CHANGE IN DATE OF ONE OF THE IMPORTANT events all of us in the family were looking forward to.After an initial period of knee jerk reaction, followed by feelings of anxiety and uncertainty, i sat down to take stock of the situation. The fact that my wife who was witness to the proceedings also cooled down by then enabled us to think of the options.
AND YES, THERE WERE MORE THAN FEW OPTIONS AVAILABLE.PERHAPS EACH OF THE OPTION IS GOING TO TAKE FURTHER TIME TO FOLLOW UP AND FIRM UP and may be the cost facto too is involved. Then , what is the point in lamenting on something where in you have limited choices to pusue? What shall not be fought aginst shall be endured >>is it not?No offence to any one, a comment in a lighter vein only.
And once the options are clear, last 12 hours have brought in again sanity, wisdom and smile.Personal effectiveness at its best.D day (the immediate one is a week ahead) .But no issues,the confidence gained will stand to wade thru the thick and thin.And i am reminded of my paternal side, my father and his brothers and the manner in which they have handled issues, most of which always revolve around a marriage.ANY ONE ELSE IN THEIR POSITION WOULD HAVE CALLED QUITS UMPTEEN NUMBER OF TIMES, BUT EVERY TIME I HAVE SEEN THEM GALLOPING AROUND TO EMERGE VICTORIOUS.And special credits to my paternal uncle sri Jagannathan, whose mischivous smiles(even when he was bravely struggling against cancer)alwys have turned the tide in his favour.When their thoughts and blessings are there around me in plenty, it looks pretty silly of me to feel dejected, what ever be the cause .
i sign off with a smile and confidence in the fond memories of my forefathers...and this blog as also the event, a week away are in dedication to their greatness :)
HARDLY 48 hrs back i was enjoying the company of the newly arrived twins when i went to see my cobrother's daughter at the hospital in T.NAGAR.The babies looked like plucked flowers, and when they smile in their sleep it is a refereshing experience to be a party to it.
And the last 36 hrs some what startled me a bit.All old ideas and arguments that i used to wage for and against love kept cropping up. ALL BECAUSE OF A CHANGE IN DATE OF ONE OF THE IMPORTANT events all of us in the family were looking forward to.After an initial period of knee jerk reaction, followed by feelings of anxiety and uncertainty, i sat down to take stock of the situation. The fact that my wife who was witness to the proceedings also cooled down by then enabled us to think of the options.
AND YES, THERE WERE MORE THAN FEW OPTIONS AVAILABLE.PERHAPS EACH OF THE OPTION IS GOING TO TAKE FURTHER TIME TO FOLLOW UP AND FIRM UP and may be the cost facto too is involved. Then , what is the point in lamenting on something where in you have limited choices to pusue? What shall not be fought aginst shall be endured >>is it not?No offence to any one, a comment in a lighter vein only.
And once the options are clear, last 12 hours have brought in again sanity, wisdom and smile.Personal effectiveness at its best.D day (the immediate one is a week ahead) .But no issues,the confidence gained will stand to wade thru the thick and thin.And i am reminded of my paternal side, my father and his brothers and the manner in which they have handled issues, most of which always revolve around a marriage.ANY ONE ELSE IN THEIR POSITION WOULD HAVE CALLED QUITS UMPTEEN NUMBER OF TIMES, BUT EVERY TIME I HAVE SEEN THEM GALLOPING AROUND TO EMERGE VICTORIOUS.And special credits to my paternal uncle sri Jagannathan, whose mischivous smiles(even when he was bravely struggling against cancer)alwys have turned the tide in his favour.When their thoughts and blessings are there around me in plenty, it looks pretty silly of me to feel dejected, what ever be the cause .
i sign off with a smile and confidence in the fond memories of my forefathers...and this blog as also the event, a week away are in dedication to their greatness :)
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