I have been watching the tussles and the heart breaks witnessed time and again amidst the genders. I am conscious in not using the word, lovers or couples , simply because of the fact that the diffrence in gender in itself is a sufficient cause to create misunderstandings ,in waht ever be the type of relationship.
This is because that a male is not going to recognise the pain of his female counterpart when she is thru the delivering phase of a baby , however much he sincerely attempts to know about it and offer solace, Similarly the female counter part will never ever come to know the agony and pains that the male counterpart has gone through when she is going thru all those lablour pains inside the hospital.
It would be wonderful if both involved sit to gether , clasp each other 's hands and spend a few moments to gether in silence instead of eloquently describing how each has felt during those moments .At such times silence is the golden key which opens the closed doors and apply it self to the wounds inflicate dand imagined!!
Some one said that with all our vocabulary at our command still we could not heal a hurt or pain thru mere words while a hug, or smile or any other physical gesture possibly could replace thosands of words to be spoken to convey one's true feelings.
This is why when some one dear and near is away, not withstanding the constant touch you may have with him/ her still you feel like being by the side of the person in physical form to offer support and comfort.
Going bach to the conflicts i desscribed in the initial para of the blog,i have also found that those who are in love either exhibit great courage and wisdom and at times they also exhibit utter stupidity and lack of sensitivity.I know that the persons perse are not responsible for this type of behaviour for they are under the prowess and magical spell of the fourletter word "love'.And that is the reason nothing else counts for them except their love and in the process tempers run high, words flow without reasoning and if the conterparty also reacts with out reason there follows a stalemate.This could be true of 90 out of 100 cases and if 10 of 100 do not undergo the same type of experience hats off to them.
It is this 10% that we are required to follow and emulate. I do not normally give prescriptions of any kind to any one except saying atht the solution to any conflict faced by a person lies within the person himself/herself.Still i am tempted to give a prescription to those who have loved and lost, those who are in love and those who have seen their love blossoming into a marriage with or with out the support of near and dear.
YeS, FIRST THING IS TO RECOGNISE THAT THE TWO IN ANY RELATIONSHIPS ARE EQUALS.
THE SECOND IS TO LIVE TODAY, TODAY AND NOT OT LIVE YESTERDAY TODAY.
THE THIRD MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO REMAIN SILENT AT LEAST FOR FEW MOMENTS WHEN CONFLICTS ARE BROODING .
IF ( and that is the biggest if) only the same is not only preached but practiced , it would be the real connotation of love, for true love simply understands and do not argue.
Lovely post appa. I particularly liked the place where you speak of how gestures can speak a lot more than words can possibly aspire to. That, in my little experience in life and love, is spot on.
ReplyDeleteBut I wonder why you asked ME to wait and watch for this (hehe!). I mean anything you write has some value, indeed, for me but specifically...? I will keep wondering. In any case, the "tempers flare" in MY own blog post was a passing reference to the turmoils that be, nothing more nothing less. I am not saying you took it as anything else, but that is just a clarification from my end.
Prasan
I thought you would have got the hidden message.
ReplyDeleteNormal squabbles , which get sorted out by passing of time amidst those concerned can also be interpreted by those in love as a signal, in favour of their love or against it.The temporal out birst on the other day is one such.In fact i believe that the outbirst has got nothing to do with the wordy duel , but more to do with what has been perceived(and sorry to say that it was a wrong perception) by the person in love as a reaction to the love perse. And in such cases any amount of logical approach to the issue will be of no avail and the better option is golden silence , which was exercised.
And the blog post is an after thought to sahre with you the nuances of that moment.That is all.
Powerful Post after a long silence - resiliency.
ReplyDeleteI wrote this poem on Silence sometime back...
Silence…
The state of perfection
To listen to the thoughts
Of the world within
Loudly.
Silence…
The nature’s gift
To workout the thoughts
On the world without
Quietly.
Silence…
The spiritual string
Unites the world within
And the world without
Perfectly.
Stephen oh Stephen
ReplyDeleteThis ,your therapist will get a chuckle out of all I copied ,ha ha
You Keep on pushing that mind of yours
one day sweetie ,you will be rich and famous ,you will be remembered !!
just think sweetie ,you be able to afford ,your new love ,without mommy ,supporting you both ,
Or just maybe ,your mommy could high your new love as her new maid ,and she will fit right in with all that are care takers of her yard
you little devil you ,this fame in creation is so rewarding and touching ,How you spend wasting Time to create such Rewarding Fame for me ,Wow!! you are amazing man ,now writing a novel ,how do you find the time
have a nice life aaron,anwii,awniii40,Rob,calkid,oh silly me ,I forget ,you have many user names and male or female ,just so convincing ,you make all look like pretty little Idiots
isn't life perfect ,I think so
today is great ,you look so stupid aaron ,as you just don't hold the facts about nothing smiling
Get a Divorce sheeshh