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Tuesday, June 29, 2010

MOOD SWINGS

I am often puzzled by the mood swings , not only of mine but also of others.
AND when the dust and noice settles down , i have often wondered whether the mood swing experinced was warranted at all.Thus the cause and effect correlation becomes important.MANY A TIME WE EXPERINCE THE EFFECTS, WHICH RESULT IN MOOD SWINGS BUT SELDOM ARE CONSCIOUS OF THE CAUSES.

The tip for overcoming such mood swings is very simple.Identify whether your change in mood is due to an event or a person or any other factor.Once you have done it ask your self what has contributed to the moodswing. Is it because of an altercation with the person or is it due to outcome of an event or is it due to factors which are beyond your control / beyond your reach.

Having done that if it is on account of facors beyond your control , your change in mood is not going to help the situation any way. Therfore forget it.If it is a result of an altercation with a person , try to see how often your moodswings are attributable to him/her.In other words whether it has become a habit for you to loose control when ever you are with that perosn.In that case better to avoid that person.If that is not possible auto tune yourself not to allow your mind/moods to
be spoilt by him/ her.Very many times when you are conscious in your dealing with any person , your mind is more balanced and so also are the moodsets.If the mood swing is on account of outcome of an event, which was not to one's desire /taste, try to see whether the outcome has got to do anything which you did .If it be so take it as a lesson not to do that again.If the event is on eon which you have no control what so ever, once again forget it.

Life is too short and too fast. Time available from dawn to dusk is the Gift from immortal to mortals.If time is to be spent on worries, moodswings,guilty complexes and so on and so forth where is the time to make a meaning out of this precious life gifted to us!!LET US MAKE THE MOST OUT OF IT.

Monday, June 28, 2010

A TRIP TO KAKINADA

I have always liked train journeys as i have mentioned in one of my previous posts.
The recent experience of train journey to kakinada, on an official vist was equally enjoyable.
I have seen in my own life and in other's lives too that we develop a taste for few cities, few food items , few people and so on and so forth. The same holds good for our distastes too. If any one tries to start analysing the reason for the same he/she will become a nut.In other words such likes and dislikes , on majority of times happen instantaneously.There is no reasoning. Or atleast it will appear so.

This prologue is needed to drive home the point that i like KAKINADA for no particular reason. It was sort of instantaneous love for the city.Then i started attributing reasons for the same .Some of them are as under:
1)It was a city where my father worked in Railways, before i was born!
2)It was a city often quoted by my elder siblings as they have lived in that city for reasonable number of years.
3)During my first visit to that city (last year) and also during my second visit now (this year) it rained heavily and made the climate loveable (and you remember my love towrds rais too>>)At times i used to think that my previous birth was in ASSAM(Sirapunjee) or my next birth is going to be there!!!
4)I had been to a hotel by name "subbiah hotel" cortesy, my office.

Now hold your breath. THIS HOTEL IS TALK OF THE TOWN AND IS STATED TO BE RUN generation after generation.Like our Muniyandi Vilas, Thirunelveli Iruttu Alwa Kadai, Thalappa kattu Briyani, madurai Murugan IDDLY kadai,. etc, Hotel Subbiah has carved out a name for its hospitality.

As it normally is the scene witnessed in such popular places, the hotel itself is not visible at all from outside. It hardly has 3/4 rooms each of which can accomodate hardly 10 or 12 people.And you have to wait for hours during peak times to have the food. And it is the place where you can have Lunch as well as Dinner. Hotels serving food in the night are shrinking day by day and even in TAMIL NADU, you do not get meals for Dinner and whether you like it or not you have to go for tiffin items only.(That is one more reason for conflict between my wife and me as i always crave for meals and she always crave for tiffin--Opposite poles attract each other--hahaha).

Coming back to Subbiah Hotel, the first serve consisited of five different sweets (made of milk, made of jaggery, made of sugar , made of fruits ), the second serve followed with different varieties of rice(Puliodharai, Puthina rice, Coconut rice) the third serve consisted of plain rice and five different chutneys (Coconut, Gongura, Chillies, Onion and Kariveppilai) , the next serve consisted of SAMABAR, Vattal kulambu, Kara kulambu, Morekulambu, Next followed different Podis(Paruppu podi, Thengai podi, Karuveppilai podi) , next came pickles (Avakkai, Lemon pickle, Mixed pickles ) along with unlimited quantity of pure ghee,and then Rasam (again 3 types) and Rock like curd / butter milk (and the butter milk served there is equivalent ot cursserved in our house holds).Appada...i get exhausted listing the items itself.And they kept offering more and more and yes , i have forgotten to add to the list, the type of vegetables, chips and paapads served.the beauty is that if you say that you do not like a particular vegetable , an alternate to the same and the one you like is immediately served .think of consuming all these items. You should starve for a week to do justice to this food and as expected i went on a fasting spree after consuming this food one afternoon.And the taste is simply superb, may be their hospitality has added to that taste further.

Thus the point number 4

Monday, June 21, 2010

yavana raniyum vilai raniyum

Hi,

Those who heaved a sigh of relief , on my absence from blog postings, for the past ten days ,beware. I have come with renewed vigour and energy so atht i can make your temporary relief, disappear in no time.

First things first, i had been away to a town Kakinada in Andhra Pradesh on official duty , where in i was more acting like a judge, hearing the defence council and the official reps , for hours to gether, with the result, at the end of each day, my head was rolling like a tailspin.Since my sanity was almost at the brink of disaster after hearing arguments and counter arguments,i decided to give a rest to the readers of my blog(and some one says too much!!! as i hardly have any followers ).

My experiences with KAKINADA(anther post in the offing) will be dwelt at length later. This post is to describe how my kakinad visit enabled me to spend some time with the books of one of my favourite authors from child hood.Yes.I mean THE GREAT WRITER of Historic novels, by nmae Sandilyan.

When i was hardly six years old, i have developed an interest in his writings.I still remember the fights i used to have with my sibling to catch hold of the copy of the Kumudam weekly magazine, the moment it is tossed in to our home by the paper boy,to finish reading of the serial called Yawana rani,(In translation it would mean the Queen of Yawanas.)After almost 50 years , during the journey to KAKI NADA, I had the opportunity of reading another historic novel by the same author , named "Vilai Rani"-traslation would read as "Queen for sale".

The charm of description, the narrative style, an eye for details, the beautiful fusion between historical characters and the imaginary characters, the ever lasting and appealing description of the love moments between the hero and heroine(people used to prohibit children from reading Sandilyan those days fearing that young minds would be adulterated on going thru his writings -he is attimes compared with HAROLD ROBINS), all of which attracted me to his writings when i was seven years old, continued to have the same grip and magnetic veil even on date when i am 58.

While Yavana Rani was the story of conflict among the kingdoms ruled by Cholas , Seras and Pandiyas, Vilai Rani covers the dynasty of Chandra Guptha Mouria , the knack and wisdom of Chanakya( on whose guidance the Chandra Gupta Mourya conquers the Nandas ) and the female charcters shrewn inbetween from fantasy to keep he story gripping and interesting. HATS OFF TO THE GREAT WRITER, who is no more .BUT HIS WRITINGS WILL CONTINUE TO BE WIH US, EVER ENCHANTING AND ENLIVENING.

I had the privilege of spending some intimate and transparent question and answer session with the famous writer, when he graced my home with his visit, during his presence at KOLKATA when we organised a Tamil cultural meet there about 30 years back.Enjoying the homely food prepared my wife, he was continuously answering all my questions and when i asked him how he was able to write so refreshingly about the love moments9at his age-he was almost 60 plus then), he said that mind is ageless . So long as mind is young and energetic, nothing could stop its relections on one's own writings.

AND THAT IS THE FINAL WORD. REMAIN YOUNG AT HEART.AND YOUR THOUGHTS AND WRITINGS WILL ALWAYS CARRY THE STAMP OF REFRESHNESS.

Friday, June 11, 2010

YESTERDAY, TODAY AND TOMORROW

Life is a long journey . Unless we consciosly attempt to make the journey comfortable and enjoyable, the charm of the journey is lost.There are simple tips to make it refreshing and enjoyable.At the first glance, it might appear as philosophical and not practical, but as one goes thru with it and earnestly attempts every time, in all walks of his/her life, its impact will be felt in an amazing manner.

And ofcourse, the immediate response will be that it is easy to preach than to practice. Let me assure my readers that i have been in this journey for the last 59 years and let me be honest..i have fretted and fumed my self several times during this journey.But then relaisation has dawned that fretting and fuming does not take any one any where. In fact it makes one more sullen, with drawn and deserted.And therefore the viable alternative is to take it as it comes.

Let me come to the point straight instead of going in circles.One should have a firm belief that what ever is happening is for good .One should further have the confidence in one's own capabilities to understand that what is deserved by hime/her shall come .MAY BE WITH DELAYS.But certainly it will come and the factor requiring attention is PATIENCE.And in the interugnum lesser the comparison with others the better.Many a time we see others , judge them from the way they speak, move , dress , earn and spend and start beliving that to be the true reflection of them, while many a time we miss out the obvious. On emay be decently employed, but may be continuously having tiff with superiors, one may appear to be easy going type, but may be inwardly bleeding, on emay show off as a very happy married person, and behind the curtains may be praying for a divorce and so on and so on. I am reminded of the famous words(i forgot as usual as to who said it) that a male and female may be in the same bed , even hugging each other , but at the same time their minds may be miles away.And that is the reality. Let me not be dubbed as Cynical.

The purpose of this blog is that there is a definite distributed quota of happiness and sadness to all human beings alike. It is our own comparison, anxities and fears which make the situation worse.If we can understand that and move forward, life would be worth living.Mind you, each day is gifted by god to us and his presence is gifted thru the "present" and let us not carry forward the burden of "yesterdays" and the anxities of "tomorrows" to mar the happiness of "today".

Thursday, June 10, 2010

BUILD US A SON

Some one has commented in my blog as to whether my entire time is spent in the office only in writing blog posts.I wish i do have that luxury.

But to remove any misgivings(as it would have other counter effects if any one from my office happen to be a follower of the blog-thogh i doubt it very much-as no body follows ny directions even at office-hahaha!!) let me clarify this aspect. I spend normally about 10 minutes in penning my blog. And the time is either lunch recess (between 1.30 pm to 2 pm) or late evening hours from the comforts of home. OK..

Now coming to the subject of todays post, two things happened, first is that i received an invitation for an Upanayanam and when i went thru it for the venue of the event , it is described as "Home. sweet Home" a title under which i have posted under this blog, hardly 24 hrs earlier. Ya, not only great minds but also great friendship thinks alike and also uses phraces alike".

The subject matter is not about this similarity . It is about the way in which the invitation is drafted. In recent past i have been comimg across a number of invitations , each one of which have got a point or two to score over the rest.BUT THIS ONE IS A CLASS APART (LIKE MY SON'S WRITINGS-I MEAN IT). Let me reproduce IT.

Remember it is an invitation for an upanayanam-NAYANAM MEANS EYES-UPA NAYANAM MEANS ADDITIONAL OR HELPING EYES-

QUOTE

"BUILD US A SON , ALMIGHTY, WHO WILL BE STRONG
ENOUGH TO KNOW WHEN HE IS WEAK,
AND BRAVE ENOUGH TO FACE HIMSELF WHEN HE IS AFRAID,
AND WHO WILL BE PROUD AND UNBENDING IN
HONEST DEFEAT, AND HUMBLE & GENTLE IN VICTORY"

UNQUOTE

I owe this post to the person who drafted those splendid lines and to the parents of the young boy.THAT HAPPENS TO BE THE PRAYER OF EVERY FATHER AND MOTHER , for their sons, irrespective of caste, creed and religion.

My day had its fulfillment....

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

HOME SWEET HOME

RAINS AGAIN VISITED LAST NIGHT.It was pouring heavily and as expected the EB immediately swunginto action and the current has taken leave of absence.It has become a common sight that each house has an inverter .But the capacity of the inverter itself is stretched to its maximum when EB stretches the current cut for hours together.
But please be happy: there are villages which enjoy current, only for an hour or two these days and that way you should thank your stars that you have cuurent cut for only one or two hours.

AND WHAT IS HAPPENING WITH EB.
The government has got plenty of time to reel out statistics , in reply to the opposition as to how many new units they have installed, how many have commissioned etc. Both the Govt and the opposition knows that no one can verify these details!!perhpas they themselves have not verified the details..that is beside the point; the fact remains that gullible public are taken for a ride in these claims and counter claims. Poor common man suffers .

And when ever rain Gods visit, there is another side to it..

HEARD OF VEDANTHANGAL-a place near Chingleput in TAMIL NADU-a bird sanctuary.The day after the rains our house becomes a vedan thangal not only for birds (as there are quite a few trees around) but also to host of other beings.like reptiles, insects, frogs, crabs etc.In due course of time i think we may start seeling tickets to public to watch these rather odd species and make money. A good pass time will be there for me after retirement..Still there is no enmity to this house, rather the affection for this house keeps growing as it is not merely a house, it is a home.

YES ,A HOME,which was a silent witness to our mood swings,a testimony to so many important events in our life, a place wherein my son and daughter were given birth to, a place which enjoyed when we enjoyed and a place which sighed when we suffered ..Oh, i love this home and that is because it carries the love, affection , intimacy and above all the memories of the past and the present all embedded into it.
AND IF IT ALSO SHELTERS SO MANY OTHER BEINGS, BE IT SO, THE MORE THE MERRIER..AND THE MORE , THE HOME BECOMES MORE SWEET(no problem though diabetic!!)

SOME RANDOM THOUGHTS OF VALUE

JUST TO SHARE SOME THOUGHTS WHICH MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER EVERY TIME WHEN YOU GO THRU IT...

Prayer is not a "spare wheel" that you pull out when in trouble, but
it is a "steering wheel" that directs the right path throughout.

- Do you know why a Car's WINDSHIELD is so large & the Rearview Mirror
is so small?
Because our PAST is not as important as ur FUTURE. Look Ahead and Move on.

Friendship is like a BOOK. It takes few seconds to burn, but it takes
years to write.

- All things in life are temporary. If going well, enjoy it, they will
not last forever. If going wrong, don't worry, they can't last long
either.

- Old Friends are Gold! New Friends are Diamond! If you get a Diamond,
don't forget the Gold! Because to hold a Diamond, you always need a
Base of Gold!

- Often when we lose hope and think this is the end, GOD smiles from
above and says, "Relax, sweetheart, it's just a bend, not the end!

- When GOD solves your problems, you have faith in HIS abilities;
when GOD doesn't solve your problems HE has faith in your abilities.

- A blind person asked Swami Vivekanand: "Can there be anything worse
than losing eye sight?"
He replied: "Yes, losing your vision!"

- When you pray for others, God listens to you and blesses them, and
sometimes, when you are safe and happy, remember that someone has
prayed for you.

- WORRYING does not take away tomorrows' TROUBLES,
it takes away todays' PEACE.