A TRIBUTE TO MOTHERS

I can not claim myself to be a mother's pet.In fact i had always been close to my dad , despite the fact that my father is a man of few words and seldom has shown his affection distinctly.Perhaps his presence near by, his masculinity, his way of doing things (in which you could always see perfection and a touch of class) made me close to him.THAT DOES NOT HOWEVER MEAN I WAS DISTANT FROM MY MOTHER.

Contrary to my father, my mother is very amiable and social.She can become friend in a matter of minutes with any one and every one.She is innoscent in many ways and would always look like a child, when my father is around.But her greatest attraction is her readiness to mix with people in very affectionate manner.In no time she will come out with complete deatils of the person with whom she has engaged in conversation hardly a few minutes back.

And she is an adaptor.Whether it be managing the ends and means in the salary of my father (If i remember correct it was hardly Rs 300 or so in those days in which we six children are to be taken care of, besides the never ending steam of visitors)or managing the home later in the salary of my brother , in a hut sort dwelling unit, near oppiliappan koil, before he got married,(where my father and mother stayed for coule of years and befor i got married)she had always been at ease.She is capable of preparing something or other with wahtever left out in the house and make it appear to be a decent meal for the visitors.She is very quick, agile and very silent when it comes to cooking(a point where in even today i pick up qualrrels with my loving wife).You will never know when she was in the kitchen, when she was out and when she prepared all those tasty foods.(Items are far and few but each of which has a taste of its own).

And when ever we have gone out she will be like a MAHARANI.Yes, my father was a railway employee and as a result he used to get Free PASS for himself and his family each year. But he has seldom used. AND WHENEVER HE USED IT ,the person who cherished every moment of it is my mother.And that would be clearly visible in her face. Even other wise she always used to be smiling and during such trips the smile will be writ across the entire movements of hers.And it would have a cascding effect on all of us and that is why those journeys are ever green in memeory.

I have learnt quite a few things from her in my childhood. The important one is to pray (and the earliest of slogas to me is taught by her which i narrate even today), to play as and when possible( i do not recollect any instance when either my father or my mother has asked me to stop playing and start studying)and to eat well. At any time of the day, whether it be morning, noon or even midnight (even after i got married and there is a wife taking care of all my needs with out batting an eye lid)she used to ask me whether i had my food. At times it would even sound irritating to me and my wife as she would have seen me having the meal and washing the plates etc.Still that is the way she has shown her affection and concern.AS she is not serving the food (Which she used to do when we were youngsters)the desire to do the same is relected by her questions.I NOW RECALL WITH AFFECTION THE MEANING BEHIND HER ACTIONS, when i myself query my daughter/son irrespective of the time zone in which they operate as to whether they had the food and what food they ate etc.It is the "Mother's touch" in the famous words of KB.

At this hour, years after my mother has passed away,i do not know whether i have shown her as much affection and love as she had shown to me.To be honest, i am poor in my showing my love and affection to those around.THAT IS ONE OF THE REASONS WHY I HAVE FOUND MY SELF TO BE ALOOF AND ALONE(No regrets on that count however)with very few friends (one of them my dear son).This has helped me to understand what it is to be jovial, transparent, innoscent all at the same time , which are all the qualities of mother.

It may be too difficult to change at this age. But it give an opportunity to know the different dimensions in better perspective.

And i bow my head to my mother who enabled me appreciate the nuances of the same.
And as they said it is thw ife who takes the seat of a mother in mother's absence and it is the daughter who steps in to the role later as a mother.Each one of them have taught me lessons in their own inimitable stayle.(ABOUT WHICH A POST LATER ).

ON THIS MOTHER'S DAY MY RESPECTS TO ALL MOTHERS WHO MADE THE LIFE WORTH LIVING.AND AS SOME ONE SAID, THERE CAN NOT BE A BTTER STATEMENT TO DESCRIBE THE MOTHERS THAN THE FOLLOWING ONE:
"GOD CAN NOT BE PRESENT EVERY WHERE AND THEREFORE HE HAS CREATED MOTHERS"