Hi,
CAUTION;LOOKS LIKE IT IS BECOMING MORE LIKE AN AUTOBIGRAPHY, SO DO NOT VENTURE TO READ IF YOU DO NOT LIKE IT..
At times i used to wonder how i have succeded all these years(ofcourse it is my own judgement and my interpretation of success and therefore if there is any difference of opinion,i am glad to welcome the same)despite my shortcomings.I list out the short comings as perceived by me and as perceived by others.
laziness
forgetfulness
shorttemper
lack of dress sense
MASTERY OVER NONE
Lack of friends
Adamantness
Weakness for home food
shortsightedness(I mean myopia)
Shortness(I mean, physical trait , only normal height and not impressive height)
Tendency to insist for punctuality from others...
List is endless. Then for fear of driving away the scant readership i hold, i refrain from describing them.

Then it struck me that i should pssibly do a soul searching to find out whether at all i have got any good qualities/traits which have possibly been sustaining me despite my weakness/shortcomings.

they are as under:
My poor memeory is the first to be voted for .It enabled me to forget the wrongs others have done to me soon and it also enabled me to fogive them.
My friends are far and few.But they are all God send gifts. THEY have always been faithful, transparent and prepared to accept me the way i am. I mean both genders.THAT ENABLED ME TO build confidence in my own self.Whether they are far or near does not matter. WHat MATTERS IS THE BELIEF that they will stand by me 100%in case of a crisis.
My passion for my studies and for my job.I will not claim to be extraordinarily brilliant in what i do.But i strive to do them as perfect as possible/within my set limitations.
My myopic sight prevented me from indulging in any thing which is possibly fraught with slightest of risks and to that extent life was smooth and flowing.
LACK OF dresssence, enabled me to bring a fort around me wherein only those who know me can freely enter and the others keep away.To that extent relationship prblems are less.
My two smart children(now adults) who never made any extra ordinary demands on me and were content with me as a father.AND THEIR BRILLIANCE IN WHAT EVER WALK OF LIFE THEY HAVE CARVED OUT FOR THEMSELVES.
My wife. my worst enemy and my best friend, who made things at home lively at every moment by doing things to my like and to my dislike all at the same time, thereby bringing a spark in the otherwise dull and dreariness which would set is after a few years of marriage.The fact that we have diametrically opposite tastes in all walks of life make it all the more better,Opposite poles attract each other ..right!!
My love for books,fiction, non fiction,biography,poetry call it by any name. And my profound taste for literature , classical dance and music,..

ABOVE ALL , THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING.THE RECOGNITION AND WISDOM WHICH CAME TO ME IN MY MID FORTIES to accept that every human being is either 100% perfect or 100% imperfect and the fault is not on them, but on the circumstances(which could have been caused by any number of factors including my own likes and dislikes )and therefore accept all those around you with their plus and minus (in totality).AS a
ZEN story goes, hatred and enmity and anger are not doing any thing to the person aginst whom it is directed but it does all the more damage to the person who is having all these feelings, Shed them , you become free and relaxed all the more.

LAST BUT NOT THE LEAST ,MY ABSOLUTE FAITH IN THAT COSMIC FORCE (BY WHATEVER NAME YOU WISH TO CALL IT) AND THE CONFIDENCE THAT I DERIVE OUT OF THAT TO BELIEVE THAT"THIS WILL ALSO PASS THROUGH" AND THERE WILL CERATINLY BE" THE SUN SHINE AND FESH BREEZE "TO BLESS MY WALK OF LIFE...

I wish my friends and others like to have this frame of mind to convert weakness into strength, challenges to opportunities, hatred to love and see how there shortcomings have themselves proved to be the source of their strength.