change is constant

The one thing which is constant in life is"change".The cahange could be of various dimensions. It could be a change of palce, change of relationship, change of job,change of career goals and so on and soforth.Though it is accepted by any one and every one that the change is inevitable, still when it happens, very few have welcomed this chang with open heart and head!. I am consciously making use of both the words heart and head as one is connected with emotions while the other one is connected with intellect.Infact many times there is a cnflict at this stge itself, i.e between the heart and head and the end is forewarned.

I am not stipulating the theory that all changes are to be welcomed always, whether you like it or not. What i am envisaging is that seldom you have a choice over the changes that are happening. If the changes are effected at your choice, then the acceptance follows automatically. When the same is thrust on a person, it is not viewed with favour and the resultant turbulence.

As a person who had witnessed cahnges quite often in life at crucial moments of life , with majority of them having been thrust upon me i pondered over the manner in which i have got accustomed to it.

The first, i recall is the time when the change is thrust on me when i have been forced to leave my parents (and in the process the wondeful warmth of the village wherein i was growing up and the few friends with whom i have developed a liking in those tender ages), and to move to chennai to continue my studies by staying in a close relative's house.The first reaction i remember was as if my freedom had been lost. i do not know whether i shed tears or not but i remember that i have spent a copule of sleepless nights(and remember i am a guy who used to love to sleeep (spg intended)for hours together).Then THE WISDOM DAWNED UPON ME THAT I DID NOT HAVE A CHOICE.I can not go to a job as i was hardly in 8th standard or so and i can not go back to the parents due to very personal family reasons.The outlook changed immediately. What can not be cured shall be endured..Is it not? Then came the ways and means.I developed a passion towards my new school, a liking to wards my teachers and a habit to become more friendly with any one around (from an introvert to an extrovert)and that brought about a sea change. And a change for the better. I remember the day when the news poured in at my village (where i returned back the day after writing my last of SSLC exams)that i have stood school first, i have secured the Government of India Merit Scholarship and that i am topper both in English and tamil language exams from among all students of Ramakrisha Boys and Girls High schools at Chennai.

Thus the change which brought me tears initially proved to be the ladder for my stardom at a later date. Yes my acceptance of the change is the starting point and that is possibly the beginning. There were friends, relatives and teachers who helped in various measures(within their limitations ) to enable me to continue my ride up.a special thanks to every one of them.

The next change took place when i shifted my job from a private company in Bangalore to a nationalised bank in Kolkatta and then from Kolkatta to Chennai to join in another nationalised bank.Mind you all these changes at my choice. So acceptance came naturally.But then after the last change to a nationalised bank in Chennai , the events elsewhere proved that my decision to switch over was not properly timed.The timing diiffrence was hardly 3 months between my batch and the previous batch It was not known then that this timing diffrence of 3months is going to result in promotional difference by 3 grades. Yes those who joined 3 months earlier rose to the level of General managers and even EDS while those who joined 3 months later were caught up (for no fault of theirs)in a turmoil of management vs association conflict with the result, a promotion which ought to have within 7 years (maximum) took 12 years .A career thus appeared doomed and the charm on loosing streak.The change in this case was at own choice, initially with a welcome smile , but then the change proved to be counterproductive.Here again i cant allow my self to be a prisoner of circumstances.After all i am not responsible for events beyond my control .In other words the change(arising as aresult of strained relationship between management and association)though not to my liking can not be wished away and hence to be accepted.This acceptance enabled me to look in to my own strngths and to project them properly over the years.With the result thogh i have not reached the level where i ought to have reached, i have nevertheless attained heights which give immense self satisfaction of having done my job well/Thus the acceptance of the change has again brought me , at the end of the day, a contentment.Hereagain there were superiors, collegues and host of others who took pains to understand my calibre(behind my rough ouside facade)and potential and i owe gratitude to all of them.

IF THE READER OF THE BLOG HAS THE PATIENCE TO COME UP TO THIS POINT, HE/SHE MAY BE WONDERING ABOUT THE PURPOSE OF THIS BLOG BY NOW.SIMPLE...

ACCEPT THE CHANGE AS IT COMES,WHETHER BY CHOICE OR OTHERWISE, LEARN TO ACCEPT THE OUTCOME OF YOUR DECISIONS,PUT IN YOUR BEST FOOT FORWARD WITHIN THE FRAME OF LIMTATIONS THAT YOU WORK....THAT IS THE STORY OF CONTENTMENT AND SUCCESS(IF YOU MAY CALL IT SO)