My lessons from those around

LIFE IS FULL OF ROLE MODELS When i sit and relax on the corridors of my spacious house enjoying a steam of coffee with a copy of TOI and a novel of BALA KUMARAN to keep me company and the bewitching smiles of my grand son adding to the beauty of the here and now momnents my thoghts travel down the memory lane . In particular it revolves around some of the people in public and private life with whom i had been dealing with in the last one year who made every moment spent with them worthy of rememberance and invaluable.And that made every minute of the life in the past one year July 11-June 12 filled with meaning and a sence of purpose. I list them below and it is not any reflection of my priorities as all of them are to be prioritised on equal footing. It starts with my friend Mr PRASAD in Hongkong who took time to complete a thirteen posts blog entiled as ' NINAIVALIAGALIL KAMABAN" beutifully focussing on his first attempt . on some of the ever green unforgettable poetic beauty of kamban and making the reading a loveable experience by enriching each episode by correlating his experiences of similar situations in his own life. It is not to be mis construed that his life is equated to that of Rama. On the other haNd it is to make us understand that RAMA, THE SUPREME, lived the life of a human BEING, setting in the process beautiful learning points in times of challenges.I am awaiting the beginning of next series by him. It moves down to my friend and collegue Ms Sarada , who moved to Singapore , under very challenging and unenviable circumstances (even making her to think abt resigning her job due to pressures of one kind or the other )and who had successfully accomplished a term of three years service under very tryig and challenging domestic and office environment and returning back to India with grace and confidence to add to the strengths of my erst while department.She left with a new born baby of 3 months old and she will be returning with a lovely kid of 3 years old with accompanying experinces to share . As a person who had tried to create a second line of qulity personnel at the dept level my personal joy is manifold on her return. I look forward to her come back. And there is always the figure with fatherly attitudes and affection.Sri Younus Bhoy , whose book about his escapades in Burma penned by MU Ramanathan is only an appetiser of sorts. Every time when he talks to me ( which is like a flowing river, very balanced and composed and lasting easily half an hout to 45 minutes ...mind it is a distance call from him from Hongkong) it is like experiencing an encylopeadia.His experinces with film industry, in tester years, his awareness about the roots of India and the problems that it faced after independence, his down to earth understanding of the basics of the Tmailanguage and his talk in chaste tamil are all some things to be experience to be believed. I am sure that HK tamils like Mr Ramanathan, Ms Chitra sivakumar and last but not the least Sri Guru ( an apt name based on his wonderful knowledge on tamil literature)would make use of this great man;s experiences to the full. Then it is also time to reflect on my daughter and son.Daughter for her becoming a matured woman in the past 12 months knowing to balance between her parents in laws and the new gift of god (her son of 39 days old) and also for having successfully proved her credentials to her employers which resulted in her second promotion in her second year of service , a feat which possibly makes her options difficult at the moment , but which she is sure of handling in time to come. Softness where required and firmness where it is needed are her assets which she is nursing to the best of her abilities to stay put in the competitive world and seeing her in action is a real treat to treasure. Equally fitting, if not more , is the contributions from son. Probsbly one of the very few to pitch for his second Phd within an young age of 26 -27, he was always around when needed and with out being asked for.To be by the side to share, witness, enjoy, and to excell (some times by participation and at other times by silence )in apt measures , again the moments are to be experienced and can not be explained.I am awaiting for his tenure to complete by this time next year and looking forward to his return with glory and in style. Last but not the least, my better half.A working engine round the clock, always looking for perfection (ofcourse in what all she does) and full of energy unmindful of the physical ailments and the limitations of sorts often cropping up.there is a biologicalclock in every one of us to control us and our activities. But she carries biological clocks for the welfare of all around. One to wake up, the other to take care of grand son's needs, the third to attend to daughter;s wants, the fourth to address the loneliness of son and the fifth to attend to an ailing mother. There used to be times of complaint that we were not devoting time to each other. Now that has been replaced by prayers that we should have time to sit and relax atleast for a couple of hours each day.And am sure that is the way i can reward her for all that she has done and been doing for the family. And each of them had shown me the way to live the life in totality.TO live the life with an understanding and love and in peace. A BIG THANKS (IS THAT THE RIGHT WORD!!) to all